lolopolo404:
Don't use vaseline as a lubricant! Fucks up the condoms
Mordanzibel:
Mostly it was bad advice but my dad told my sister something that stuck with me: a man will only give a woman as much respect as she demands.
This was right after my mom told her all men were scum who’d fuck a knothole in a tree and not to trust anything they say.
moonshinetemp093:
They never gave me sex advice, so let me, a real dad, give those who's parents also didn't give them advice, give you advice!
Enjoyment should always go both ways. You'll have a much better experience if you pay attention to them in the ways they enjoy.
Reciprocation is needed. You want them to go down on you? Go down on them. If there's something you want to happen, make sure there is an equitable activity on the table for them to receive for doing it.
Always appreciate the fact that you are having sex. As long as it's consensual, appreciate any naked activity.
Sex. Is. Gross. Get over it. The sounds, the smells, the tastes, the feelings, the sights, all of it can be kinda gross and unappealing. Love it anyway. Sex is amazing, and it only makes sense that sometimes something uncomfortable will happen. Skin cleans, feelings don't.
UNDERSTAND THE BOUNDARIES. Everybody has something they love, and everybody has something they hate. Mistakes are only made once. Anything more is fucked up and wrong. Once you find those boundaries, respect them and never try to cross again.
Bn_scarpia:
You don't need an erection to be good at/have great sex.
Upper 60s father to early 40s me.
And he's right. While penetrative sex can be amazing, it's limiting to think that good sex has to require your dick in something. Sexual massage. Giving oral. Power play. Cuddling. Sharing erotic stories. Etc.
Sex is wondrous, many splendor-ed thing... And imagination is what gives you the spice of life.
KillerJupe:
A relationship doesn’t have to look like a hallmark movie. You can date multiple people, get married or not, have whatever kind of sex that makes you happy, and don’t let social norms define your happiness.
nome_king:
My grandmother: never sleep with someone with more problems than you
FLAVOREDmayonaise:
My dad told me at 12/13 that no guys like a girl who just lays there and thinks shes too hot to do any work. Was not good advice but it definitely stuck with me as a young girl
RunaWolfsdottier:
The best thing was really my father who told me: we men are simple. And we can not read your thoughts. Know your body and what you like and tell it you partner. Whatever it is.
That was way better than that bullshit my mother did/told me.
ChaosReigns92:
Don't get certain piercings if you want your partner to have good teeth for a long time
G4rg0yle_Art1st:
Put your partner's needs before your own. If you don't know how to make them feel good, ask. They know their body better than you do and they will definitely teach you how to make the most of the experience.
Don't go into sex thinking you know everything about it and power your way through, go into it willing to learn so you both have the best time possible.
Rescue-320:
“Foreplay starts at breakfast.” My parents told me this when I got to early twenties and was getting ready to marry my now husband. They said that neither of us should go through the day ignoring the other, being grumpy and rude, dumping chores on one person or the other, etc. and then expect to get any loving that evening.
Apparently my dad learned the hard way that if he was always unhelpful with chores, constantly handing us kids off to mom all the time, and spending the day being generally lazy, it was not going to be his lucky night 😂
rayfans:
If you’re switching holes, wipe.
superbrain324:
When showering before and after Scrub your lovely nuts
MomoMurs:
that men SHOULD provide condoms but it's best to have some too just in case
Commercial_Artist5812:
Three way relationships never work jealousy between partners is inevitable
Angeluxaf:
My mother was always very open about sex-related topics with me and my siblings from a young age and I think the best advice she gave me was to get to know my own body before I get to know someone else’s.
surfermom82:
Didn't have the talk, but i actually enjoyed learning and figuring it out for myself. With my kids, I'm open book and thankfully they come to me about it all. I think with my son it's easier and the reassuring that he cares about the female and what he can do to make sure she feels safe and satisfied. With my 15 year old daughter, she isn't there yet and I have told her that when she is, it'll be more important for all her questions/concerns to be addressed. I think it's important for a woman to know what she likes and doesn't like that way she can communicate to her partner. I'm the mom that all the kids come to when they have questions about it all, I'm also the mom that will take them to the XXX Store for things they should use to explore. No one should feel overwhelmed or not comfortable being able to talk or ask questions. These days especially.
MCarisma:
Don’t wait to get married. You never know how sexually compatible you will be otherwise. Do it before it is too late and you are either stuck with the person or need a divorce.
New-Resolution136:
“No matter how careful you are and what precautions you take; there is ALWAYS a chance sex will end in a pregnancy. And you need to be ready to deal with the consequences of that… that’s what should tell you that you’re ready to have sex.”
CertainStylus:
Best advice I have received is that the best type of sex is supposed to be fun.
seudonym:
Shower when you're done
irqee:
Not my parents, but they refused to give me the talk because they didn’t want me having sex before marriage. One day my uncle, who I looked up to a lot, sat me down and explained how very important consent is. He went into detail about mistakes he had made in the past and he told me “you don’t just know, you can’t tell if somebody wants to have sex with you, it might be awkward, but just ask.” My last partner was so appreciative of our first time, she said she knew she wanted to but that when I verbally asked, she knew that I genuinely cared about her comfort.
He went on to tell me that I also need to consent, that I don’t owe anybody anything even a partner who you’ve previously had sex with. This changed my outlook a lot because I had sex on one occasion before he had told me this advice and as dumb as it sounds, I had sex with someone who I really didn’t want to but I felt I should because I knew people kind of expected us too. That partner broke up with me when I told them that I wanted them to be more cautious about my willingness.
bi_girl_Jane:
Explore, have fun, be safe. Don’t be ashamed of things that turn you on and feel free to ask any questions you need to.
Muted_Childhoods695:
My dad told me “Make sure to have sex with who ever I want to marry before saying I do. You have to be sure you’re compatible. You don’t want a lifetime of lousy sex.” My dad is a retired ordained minister. It was worthy advice.
sjehcu6:
Wear a condom, you dont want a bunch of kids with women you dont want to spend your life with.
Amazing advice. All my friends growing up have kids with diff women cause they dont like condoms.
Yankeedoodlecanada:
There’s no orgasm worth dying for
Remarkable-Hand-4395:
My ultra conservative US immigrant said women all have the same thing but some get diamonds and some get Taco Bell burritos.
She wasn't talking about payment for sex...it was more a conversation about standards.
RowdyRoddyPooper:
My Dad said, “RowdyRoddyPooper, just remember a stiff dick has no conscience”. That was our one and only birds and bees talk.
tytomasked:
If you can put your mouth on someone’s genitals you can use your mouth to communicate with them
MichianaMan:
Any girl you hook up with, imagine if she was the mother to your children. Really made me make sure I had protection
Fritzhijinks:
My father "when you go to sleep with a woman, stop and think that your child could share their DNA." I was 12. Later in life my mother explained the importance mitochondrial DNA plays in a child's intelligence.
rosecapone18:
Remain monogamous when ur in a serious relationship (that’s common Sense honestly 😂)
PeruviaN22:
When I was 19, I drove out to visit my grandma after not seeing her for a few years. We were talking for hours and she was asking me all sorts of questions about my life. She asked if I had a boyfriend and I told her I did but that we were sort of having problems and I didn't think we'd be together much longer. I truly do not know what prompted her to say this, but she immediately goes into this full blown lecture on how to find a man's g-spot because "the secret to keeping a man is playing with his prostate." Then she goes on to say that she had a massage table and a dildo somewhere in the living room (which we were sitting in) and that she uses them with her new husband and he loved it. I didn't know how to respond so I just said thanks for the tips!
I didn't take her advice for a few years but when I did..... she was right.
THEBUS1NESS:
When it comes to condoms and deodorant, those who need them most use them the least. Don’t be a fool wrap your tool.
smorkenborkenforken:
Never had the talk with my parents because they figured (correctly) that my older brother would fill me in on how things work. Still, my dad gave a great piece of advice about attraction and arousal: "the biggest sex organ you have is your brain."
dhil9696_:
Don't have sex with someone that you wouldn't want to interact with for at least 18 years
Aggressive-Scheme986:
Save yourself for your husband
I’m not religious. I didn’t save myself for my husband because of Jesus or something. I did it because I wanted to share something extraordinary with the man I would love and be with forever. I also wanted to avoid drama, heartache, STDs, and unwanted pregnancy. I respected my body by not being sexually actively with anyone except my husband and I respected his body by not having a “used” body that could possibly have disease. Not to mention the fact that you can’t get HPV from someone who is a virgin so I lowered my risk of cervical cancer as well. And our wedding night was so freaking special because it was both our first times.
enjoyt0day:
“If you go to back to a guy’s apartment, and you don’t see any books, don’t fuck him” 😂
WisteriaWillows:
My mother was a nurse on a urology unit. She told me that a healthy man will keep functioning for his entire life.
Also, when she was 75 and my father was 85 they were still active. That was five years ago.
She also told me to keep our bedroom clean and tidy with wash clothes in reach of the bed.
Grease_Witherspoon_:
My mom explained to me that sex comes with an emotional toll/tie that does affect you, so make sure it’s with someone you trust and only when you KNOW you want to. Made a huge difference for me as a teenager to remember it’s not just physical, at least not at that stage in life
Devdoozy:
I got advice saying- if you went to buffet and try to fill up stomach by eating everything that you saw you wont have space for best ones. Lols
gazingforth:
I have two bits of advice I never see anywhere else.
- Besides the obvious stuff, there are three things you should prepare before doing it:
- Hydration - Have plenty of water nearby. You're gonna get thirsty.
- Sanitation - Keep a roll of paper towels nearby. Trust me.
Ventilation - Open a window, have a fan going. A little heat is fun, a lot of heat means sweat drips into your partner's eyes.
No orgasm is ever worth it - Whether it's a temptation to cheat, sleeping with someone that is in any way part of a physically or emotionally toxic situation, or going back to your ex...do the smart thing. Take care of things yourself and get out of that mess.
